For me, i know that I find comfort in hearing about others who are going through similar difficulties that I may be venturing through.. Or better yet, those who have overcome them. It is not that I take comfort in knowing that others are suffering especially when its a pain you can relate to. But knowing that you are not an exception to society and the 'heart wrenching' pain you are experience is one that all other everyday people have also experienced somehow makes it seem okay. To know you aren't an exception to the rule, that is comfort.
I also find it comforting when I find other people who take the same view on situations that I do, especially considering my views often steer from that of everyday Australians. It is not that I am one of those creepy, nothing I say makes sense or has any relevance to life, type of people. In fact, I feel that I am quite opposite. I am just open minded, simply put, in a world of very closed or half-open minded people. I am aware that put that way it makes me sound like I believe I am better then others, or something similar but trust me this isn't the case. I am very down to earth and friendly I just seem to think very differently from many other people I have met. That is not to say that I believe my view point is superior because I honestly don't, I just know that it works for me. In fact, i am more open to accepting the view points of others and don't feel the need to 'preech' to those who are different in their thought process. I make sense of my world my way, as does everyone else.
It is comforting, however, to find others who do think similar, coming back to safety with numbers. Not safety from society or to develop an 'us Vs them' motion but just to keep me confident in my own way of thoughts. It is hard, regardless of how holistic you feel, to have your opinions continuously cross examined by the majority of society who think differently to you and believe you to be naive in your views. So far im still standing as straight and tall as a building about my beliefs but even buildings can fall. It is hard to be different to what society expects you to be, regardless of how 'wise' being different makes you.
I was on one of my 'bibles' this morning, a website called mamamia where collectively people submit articles about an array of topics from love to politics and current national events. I say it is my bible because through this I find numerous of articles that help me make sense of life, or help others that I know. This website is the joining together of people and thoughts through words, and it is amazing what sort of repair job these words can help accomplish.
Today I found this article about a women who's husband wanted to leave her and she didn't go through the natural (and often normal) process of breaking down or demanding answers and responses. Instead she calmly supported him and let him know it was 'okay' but she loved him anyway. (Have a read: http://www.mamamia.com.au/weblog/2010/07/he-said-i-dont-love-you-she-said-thats-ok-stay-anyway.html). Reading it I remembered my 'rant' from yesterday on my girlfriends who have a hard time accepting my decision to support a boy they don't believe is treating me right. It was nice to read that others have chosen to travel a similar path to me and that their girlfriends also found them naive for following that path. Other people find it hard to believe that you can just 'know' that you are meant to support someone but from reading that she just knew, without a doubt, that her husbands problems was not because of her but she was there to support him in his decision makes me realise I am not naive, i am just trusting my heart. I acknowledge the differences in the situation between her and me, but that doesn't make my need to support someone and stay in a situation any different to hers.
For me, I accept that going by societies standards the relationship I have entered shouldn't be this 'hard' at the beginning and because it shouldn't be this hard society believes it can't be successful. What I don't understand is how society can believe, when we are made up of hundreds of thousand of different people with all varying experiences and ideas, that one set of rules determine the game for everyone?
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